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He's having a baby.

Yep. It hurts. Not as much as it might have, once... but it hurts. Damned information chain.

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  1. Anonymous6:37 AM

    My xmm got married and had a baby too. Yes it hurts. But thats ok right. I figure it will be while longer before it is completely out your system and out of mine. Its nice though not having that i want to die feeling.

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  2. Healing and Learning8:52 PM

    Yes, it's nice not wanting him every single minute of every single day. Why do our brains keep wanting everything though? Knowing we don't REALLY want all those things. I think humans are inherently selfish. I want everyone to only want me. I think that's what it boils down to. Not wanting him. Just not wanting him to want anyone else and have anything else. Bleh.

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