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Why haven't I posted? He's gone. Not completely but I have not thought of him in months. MONTHS! Not days. Not weeks. M-O-N-T-H-S. Let's keep this short and sweet. You can get there too. Time is your friend. I'm glad my story can help any of you out there, on either side of the painful equation of an affair. Hang in there and happy spring!

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  1. Anonymous11:27 AM

    My name is Rosalind and I am a casting associate for a production company based in NYC. We are looking to speak to the married/ divorcedcommunity regarding infidelity in marriages.

    Please see below the casting notice we are hoping you will post on your site or share with others who may be interested in sharing their story to help someone else.

    If you have additional questions please feel free to e-mail me.

    Best.
    Rosalind
    Casting Associate
    True Entertainment

    The company that brings you, A Baby Story, Whose Wedding is it Anyway, Mystery Diagnosis… is now seeking married couples (or divorced) willing to share their stories for a groundbreaking new show.

    Coming soon to a major cable network, this new television series will explore the psychology of infidelity. This is NOT a talk show; it is a documentary series and will take an impartial approach to the content.

    The show will use first person narrative and psychological input to educate the viewers on the deep internal issues both parties deal with leading up to an affair and after the revelation. 


    We are currently looking for married couples who have dealt with a complex instance of infidelity and would be interested in retelling their story on our show. It's important to us that the couples are well past the initial hurt and would be able to discuss their situation and resolution so others can learn from it. If you are interested in hearing more about the project or have any feedback please contact me atinfidelity.casting@gmail.com and I’d love to discuss everything in more detail.

    Best,
    Rosalind-
    Casting Associate
    True Entertainment

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  2. Anonymous9:52 PM

    So glad he is gone from your heart. I have not seen my XAP in 2 years. He still come to my mind sometimes. But I am not sad anymore. I have accepted the fact it was all a big lie on his part. I cant believe i risk so much. Risk it all and he just walked out of my life. Ater so many years. But now sleep comes so easily. Nothing in the world like peace of mind.I have forgiven myself. I am doing good. I too know in time. He wont ever come into my mind.:)

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  3. Anonymous8:16 AM

    I have just read every post/message. I am going through this right now. I felt your pain as it is the same pain I am experiencing. Thank you for this blog. I will keep in thought as I travel my road to recovery... K

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  4. Again, I'm so glad this story can help. Affairs are really painful things. But you can heal.

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  5. So glad I found this blog! I've read it all and it has helped me immensely!!! Thank you. Because of you I have also started my own blog.

    http://theaffairthatendeditall.blogspot.com/

    It's helping me get the negative feelings out. Thank you again!

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