I just erased one of my avenues to spy on the exAP. Poof. Feels good.
So, sometime in the last month, I hit the true one year no contact mark. The last time I heard from the ex affair partner, he called me at work because he had gotten wind of an email announcement my husband and I drafted together last May. It was a message we decided to jointly send to our mutual friends (friends with us and the ex affair partner) to tell them that the affair happened, and ask them to not mention the ex affair partner to us anymore. We also asked them to keep it confidential. Obviously since he called me about it someone told him... not surprising I guess. We all were part of a pretty close-knit group of friends while the affair was going on. It's been five years or more since we have all lived in the same state, but we knew most of our mutual friends still kept in contact with the ex affair partner. So it follows that one of them was still close enough with him to tell him we had sent the message. Anyway. Here's what it felt like to hear his voice on the oth...
That is so great! My xap's FB profile is no longer private... UGH! And how do I know this?? Because my dumba** cyberstalked once again!
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Oh man E, that sucks. My xAP is a privacy freak, so he's locked his down completely. It's easier that way, isn't it? Shoot, I hope yours gets a nudge that the new privacy settings are retarded. Try to stay strong... if you are like me, the info you will find there will only hurt you. You don't need it.
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