tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post6383635214131714191..comments2023-02-16T21:41:09.917-06:00Comments on My dirty, despicable, horrible affair: The one year true "no contact" mark after a four year affairHealing and Learninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07637375326828990765noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post-22929368725375729862020-09-11T14:46:33.651-05:002020-09-11T14:46:33.651-05:00Some affairs happen for selfish reasons, but other...Some affairs happen for selfish reasons, but other affairs happen because the low-self-esteem person was targeted by a predatory user. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post-68903737260401946362017-06-20T14:28:20.356-05:002017-06-20T14:28:20.356-05:00You are all so judgemental and harsh, it isn't...You are all so judgemental and harsh, it isn't always so clear cut why an affair happens, and if your spouse doesn't know about it is that worse than them knowing?Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03883272625468300660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post-39330522995648652462017-05-10T12:40:36.448-05:002017-05-10T12:40:36.448-05:00I hope your husband finds out you continue to dece...I hope your husband finds out you continue to deceive him and only worry about being caught. Thank God he discovered your disgusting affair. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post-32125467836100719652016-05-04T16:55:25.374-05:002016-05-04T16:55:25.374-05:00That anon is right.
You only care about being caug...That anon is right.<br />You only care about being caught.<br />And your counselor is as deceitful as you are.<br />You only don't want to disclose the sex to your husband because there was probably things you did for your lover you'd never do for him.<br /><br />You are disgusting.<br /><br />And insulting yourself, and your affair, is not affirmation of guilt or recovery.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post-36578230361400226662014-10-04T23:50:33.642-05:002014-10-04T23:50:33.642-05:00Absolutely agree with the above post. You will sti...Absolutely agree with the above post. You will still be a cheater for as long as you still think it is ok. To lie to your husband about your infidelity. Your counselor was an idiot and your true motivations are self preservation. You really do not love your husband as much as yourself or your affair partner. Your lover knows the truth, your husband is still in the dark. You have proven who you love most. Glad you are proud of yourself for lying to a man that gave you another chance after behaving like a diseased alley cat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post-11725829558563651082013-01-05T12:32:47.417-06:002013-01-05T12:32:47.417-06:00Wow... so your relationship with your husband is s...Wow... so your relationship with your husband is still built on lies. I really feel for him that he wound up with someone like you.<br /><br />On a side note, have you ever considered that you have some degree of narcissistic personality disorder? I suppose if you did, you probably wouldn't be able to recognize it as your preoccupation with your own self would make you blind to it. But it makes sense. Narcissists can lie and cheat without regard for other people. They are much more likely to have affairs than someone with a normal capacity for empathy.<br /><br />In your above post, you talk twice about continuing to lie to your husband without ever mentioning feeling the slightest compunction for doing it. Your only concern is getting caught; and if you know you won't get caught, then lying doesn't matter. Any normal person with the normal amount of love and empathy for their spouse would feel rotten for doing it, not just fear that they might get caught.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post-42964650344339301002011-05-17T10:19:16.712-05:002011-05-17T10:19:16.712-05:00Thanks for this good advice! Luckily I did not sen...Thanks for this good advice! Luckily I did not send that letter. Looking back on where I was just two years ago makes me feel really proud of how far I've come. I'm sorry for your hurt. I hope you and your spouse can work toward healing also. It is possible if you both work at it.Healing and Learninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07637375326828990765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35638523.post-91564256405484346722011-05-16T18:48:41.506-05:002011-05-16T18:48:41.506-05:00Don't Send the letter please..you have crossed...Don't Send the letter please..you have crossed the line once before..its to easy. From a betrayed spouse please do not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com